“A bird is never afraid of a branch breaking because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.”
There is a saying that goes like this, “if we spoke to friends the way we speak about ourselves, we wouldn’t have any friends left.” Always remember to be careful in how you speak to yourself because you are always listening.
“Lazy”, “Dumb”, “Too Masculine”, “Too Feminine”, “Mean Girl”, “Just a Woman”, “Weak”, “Failure”, “Emotional”, “Clumsy”. Negative self-talk is detrimental to your physical, emotional and spiritual growth and seriously hinders flourishing as a human being. These words downplay our accomplishments while tearing down our self-esteem. Repetitive negative self-talk perpetuates fear and holds us back from going for something that we have earned and that we deserve.
“Worth it”, “Fierce”, “Rockstar”, “Strong”, “Influential”, “Role Model”, “Gymnasty”, “Fighter”, “Boss”, “Athlete”, “Successful’, “Coach”, “Teacher”, “Disciplined”, “Legend”, “Proud”, “Just as Good”, “Focused”, “An Example”, “Leader”. Positive thoughts are what empower us. Tell yourself that your life has purpose, your voice matters, your story is important and you were born to make an impact. Remind yourself daily to BRING A FIGHT and to always PLAY TO WIN; in life, in school and at work because you have what it takes but it is going to take everything you’ve got.
The National Organization for Women (NOW) Foundation was established in 1986 as an education and litigation organization. The Foundation works to enhance the status of women in the United States and around the world through many strategies; including advocacy, public education and litigation projects. On October 14, 2015, NOW is encouraging women everywhere to participate in the Love Your Body Campaign in a collective effort to combat the influence of the media by exposing it’s ideal and narrow frame work as unrealistic and often unhealthy. For more information on the Love Your Body Campaign, click this link.
In 2014, over 5 million negative beauty tweets circulated social media. The Dove Campaign for real beauty encourages you to #SpeakBeautiful. In an effort to encourage female empowerment, tweet something nice about one of your friends this week. Commit to setting the tone for your day by speaking beautifully to yourself before getting out of bed in the morning. Say one thing that you are grateful for, one thing that you are proud of and one thing that you are looking forward to.
Always remember that your body weight simply represents your numerical relationship with gravity. It cannot measure; ambition, potential, beauty, purpose, work ethic, value, strength or determination and it definitely cannot appraise your self-worth. Every single day someone is going to try to tell you that you aren’t good enough. Don’t let that somebody be you.
Appreciate your body today, accept your body tomorrow and love your body always. Start by giving up those bad habits that bring you(or others) down:
20 Things To Give Up Doing:
- Doubting Yourself
- Negative Thinking
- Fear of Failure
- Letting the Opinions of Other’s Control Your Life
- Destructive Relationships
- Being overly critical of yourself and others
- Comfort Eating
- Negative Self Talk
- Fear of Success
- Anything Excessive
- People Pleasing
- Putting Other’s Needs Before Your Own
- Choosing to Do Nothing
- Running From Problems That Should Be Fixed
- The Need To Always Be Right
- Shame of Past Failures
- Being Indecisive In What You Want
For more information on how to foster a positive body image visit here.
As a final note: remember that the Georgia Southern Counseling Center is a great resource that offers group therapy sessions for those of us who are struggling with self-image, anxiety, or other worries that we may experience. Don’t be afraid to get help. We are here for you.